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Attitude of Gratitude

Develop an Attitude of Gratitude

2016 was a very profound year in my life! In fact, the most profound! In January of 2016, my son Christopher became a victim of suicide. In April of 2016 my brother Michael became a victim of suicide. I was encouraged to further develop and strengthen my personal ‘Attitude of Gratitude’ as part of my ongoing recovery from the trauma of my family deaths. This is what I learned!

Attitude of Gratitude | Hughie Bagnell | The foundation to all growth is being grateful for everything in your life, even if it is not ideal right now! “Gratitude is a high-energy emotion.” When you can feel grateful for the things in your life and view them as opportunities to grow and learn, you develop the necessary skills to bring you closer to your ideal self. In doing so, you become very powerful!

“Develop an attitude of gratitude and give thanks for everything that happens to you, knowing that every step forward is a step toward achieving something bigger and better than your current situation.”  ~ Brian Tracy

Gratitude will shift your mindset.

Attitude of Gratitude | Hughie Bagnell | www.HughieBagnell.netFor something to change in your life, one of two things has to happen: your life changes or you do.  Waiting for life to change is a pretty passive solution. Open your eyes to an attitude of gratitude and all of a sudden things start to fall into place. Be proactive, not passive and by switching your mindset you will see life change!

How? Start by keeping a daily list of events that you are grateful for each night. It is usually called a ‘Gratitude Journal’!

Gratitude creates solutions and is contagious.

Adopting an attitude of gratitude takes you out of a problem and into a solution. Developing a best-outcomes mindset is a skill we need in life and our decision-making. It allows us to see solutions where others only see obstacles.

How? Watch your words. What you say is usually how you act, so be aware of complaining and replace whines with positive words. Be the change and watch as the world changes around you and your attitude of gratitude.

Be a Giver and Meditate!

Negative feelings, many times can be caused by focusing on the perceived negative aspects of your life. This feeling is instantly shifted by giving unconditionally to others.

Meditation is one of the most effective ways to increase your positivity! The practice and skill of meditation expands your awareness and allows for a very clear connection between mind, body and soul!

Remember these keys!
  • What you focus on you find
  • What you focus on seems real
  • What you focus on grows
  • What you focus on you ultimately become
Attitude of Gratitude | | Hughie BagnellCount your blessings and you will have an attitude of gratitude!

Gratitude nurtures within us a positive, joy-filled flow of life which does give birth to inner peace and fulfillment!

Be curious about what you naturally focus on! Is it positive or negative?

Develop an Attitude of Gratitude and shift your mindset!


To Your Success,

Hughie Bagnell

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Suicide Is The Most Misunderstood of All | Hughie Bagnell

Suicide Is The Most Misunderstood of All

“Living in Exile”

Death is always painful, but its pains are compounded considerably if its cause is suicide. When a suicide occurs, we aren’t just left with the loss of a person, we’re also left with a legacy of anger, second-guessing and fearful anxiety.

Suicide is the most misunderstood of all | | Hughie BagnellChristopher Bagnell, Age 20, Victim of Suicide January 5, 2016 – Son

So each year, I write a column on suicide, hoping that it might produce more understanding around the issue and, in a small way perhaps, offer some consolation to those who have lost a loved one to this dreadful disease.

Essentially, I say the same things each year because they need to be said. As Margaret Atwood once put it, some things need to be said and said and said again, until they don’t need to be said any more. That’s true of suicide.

“What needs to be said, and said again, about it?”

First of all that it’s a disease and perhaps the most misunderstood of all diseases.

Suicide is the most misunderstood of all | | Hughie Bagnell

Michael Bagnell, Age 60, Victim of Suicide April 9, 2016 – Brother

We tend to think that if a death is self-inflicted it is voluntary in a way that death through physical illness or accident is not. For most suicides, this isn’t true. A person who falls victim to suicide dies, as does the victim of a terminal illness or fatal accident, not by his or her own choice. When people die from heart attacks, strokes, cancer, AIDS and accidents, they die against their will. The same is true of suicide, except that in the case of suicide the breakdown is emotional rather physical —- an emotional stroke, an emotional cancer, a breakdown of the emotional immune system, an emotional fatality.

This is not an analogy. The two kinds of heart attacks, strokes, cancers, breakdowns of the immune system, and fatal accidents are identical in that, in neither case is the person leaving this world on the basis of a voluntary decision of his or her own will. In both cases, the person is taken out of life against his or her own will. That’s why we speak of someone as a “victim” of suicide.

Given this fact, we should not worry unduly about the eternal salvation of a suicide victim, believing (as we used to) that suicide is always an act of ultimate despair. God is infinitely more understanding than we are and God’s hands are infinitely safer and more gentle than our own. Imagine a loving mother having just given birth, welcoming her child on to her breast for the first time. That, I believe, is the best image we have available to understand how a suicide victim (most often an overly sensitive soul) is received into the next life. 

Again, this isn’t an analogy. God is infinitely more understanding, loving and motherly than any mother on earth. We need not worry about the fate of anyone, no matter the cause of death, who exits this world honest, over-sensitive, gentle, over-wrought and emotionally crushed. God’s understanding and compassion exceed our own. 

“Knowing all of this, however, doesn’t necessarily take away our pain (and anger) at losing someone to suicide. Faith and understanding aren’t meant to take our pain away, but to give us hope, vision, and support as we walk within it.”

Finally, we should not unduly second-guess when we lose a loved one to suicide. 

“What might I have done? Where did I let this person down? If only I had been there? What if . . .?”

Suicide is the most misunderstood of all | | HughieBagnellIt can be too easy to be haunted by the thought: “If only I’d been there at the right time.” Rarely would this have made a difference. Indeed, most of the time, we weren’t there for the exact reason that the person who fell victim to this disease did not want us to be there. He or she picked the moment, the spot and the means precisely so that we wouldn’t be there. Perhaps it’s more accurate to say that suicide is a disease that picks its victim precisely in such a way so as to exclude others and their attentiveness. This should not be an excuse for insensitivity, especially for those suffering from dangerous depression, but it should be a healthy check against false guilt and fruitless second-guessing. 

We’re human beings, not God. People die of illness and accidents all the time and all the love and attentiveness in the world aften cannot prevent a loved one from dying.

“Suicide is a sickness and there are some sicknesses that all the care and love in the world cannot cure.”

A proper human and faith response to suicide should not be horror, fear for the victim’s eternal salvation, or guilty second-guessing about hoe we failed this person. Suicide is indeed a horrible way to die, but we must understand it (at least in most cases) as a sickness, a disease, an illness, a tragic breakdown within the emotional immune system. And then we must trust in God’s goodness, God’s understanding, God’s power to descend into hell, and God’s power to redeem all things, even death, even death by suicide. 

***Thank you Rev. Ron Rolheiser, OMI. This information is a reprint of an article written by Rev. Rolheiser, OMI.  It was given to me on January 17, 2016; twelve (12) days after my son, Chris, became a victim of suicide. Rev. Rolheiser’s words have been a valuable resource in my recovery process and journey! 

Yours sincerely,

Hughie Bagnell

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